by Nina Marie Sherrer & Jean M. Kryzer, RN, BSNSiblingsClash.jpg.

This article is not full of statistics and numbers from studies and research. It very briefly explains our shock and awakening to the law and to dementia. It is a wake-up call to caregivers and to anyone diagnosed with dementia – whatever stage or type of memory loss. It is a wake-up call to get involved and help others live to the fullest possible extent that gives them the dignity, respect, and honor they deserve.

It is imperative that everyone realizes the NOW of dementia. What can be done now to help those diagnosed with dementia? They need to live a full life that is laced with dignity, respect, purpose, and compassion. Those living at home with caregivers and/or in memory care facilities need to be treated as the adults they are. Life must have meaning. There is No Easy Way Out around this!

When our father died, within ten days our lives and our mother’s life changed forever. We knew our mother’s official papers (Will, Power of Attorney, Healthcare Directive, End-of-Life Declaration.) were in order and began following her wishes. What we thought was good began to unravel and turn into what appeared to be deceit and greed. Unfortunately her official papers did not matter. 

A brief check by a physician, determining memory loss, can undermine and create havoc in a family situation. How much memory loss enables someone else to take away personal rights and who can take away those personal rights? Our mother’s appointed Attorney’s-In-Fact and Health Care Agents were willing, able and caring for her after our father’s death. But that’s not what some of our siblings wanted. Unforeseen and uncalled for events, in this case the filing of emergency guardianship and conservatorship petition in court, became devastating for our family.

Now, she was just a person with a “dementia label” with all decisions made by others. The legal papers she carefully made are null and void. She is considered incompetent by the Court system. One of her children has made her a ward and protected person of the state for LIFE. Our precious mother is now an “unwarranted ward”.

We were shocked, upset and angry, and determined to save our mother because no one else seemed to care about her. A crash course in research, learning as much as possible about law, guardianship, conservatorship, where the actual power of the courts lie, led us down paths we never imagined.

The more we researched, the more we wondered how many more people were in a situation like ours:

  • Beware of the vultures hovering. Make sure all the “end of life” paperwork is in order. Make sure you, as a potential caregiver, are ready to fight for your loved one’s wishes, and remember it is their wishes, not yours. Whether you become a caregiver or are diagnosed with dementia you must make your wishes known and make sure those carrying out your wishes will follow your instructions. Find an attorney you can trust. Don’t stop with the proper legal paperwork.
  • Make a video of what you want to happen to you. Who will take care of you the way you want? Make sure you appoint who will be your voice of the future.

Within eight months we had to make concessions for saving mom. We had to learn there was No Easy Way Out other than believing through education and research we could make a difference and help our mother. We had to keep our promise to our father and help our mother to enjoy life and feel loved.

Link to full article: http://savingmom.org/18.html

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Setting Standards for Dementia Care

ann ellettby: Anne Ellett, Nurse Practitioner, M.S.N., Gerontology Consultant, has worked in the arena of elder care and gerontology for more than 2 decades. Most recently, she held the position of Senior Vice President at a national company that was a recognized leader in caring for elderly, specializing in dementia care.

It was good news to read that at the Assisted Living Federation of America’s (ALFA) most recent national conference in May, setting standards for dementia care was identified as a critical issue for their organization. Studies indicate that up to 60-70% of residents living in assisted living are affected by memory changes such as MCI (mild cognitive impairment), Alzheimer’s disease, vascular dementia or some other type of dementia. Current types of care programs often fall far short of meeting the unique needs of these residents.

Providing compassionate and life-affirming care for people living with dementia is complex. The pervasive culture of “person-centeredness”, providing care that is individualized and respects the “whole” person, needs passionate leadership, adequate staff training and engagements that are stimulating and interactive. This type of care is not easy to deliver. We can hope that ALFA’s focus on setting standards for dementia care will provide the “top down” support for dementia care providers to assess their programs and improve as needed.

Consumers shopping for senior housing may assume there are already standards in place for dementia care. Almost every assisted living sells itself as providing “memory care” for their residents. Unfortunately, not every assisted living community has done its “homework” and prepared a safe and life-affirming environment for their residents affected by dementia.

Each state has its own regulations defining which type of assisted living can provide care for people with dementia. There are no national standards. Most states have regulations that require some additional training, but it varies from 6 hours up to 40 hours of training. Some states require that there is nursing on-site, other states may only require a nurse available “on-call”, or no nurse at all. Most states don’t specify staff ratios for caring for individuals with dementia, but will write something vague like “staff must be adequate to provide for the health and safety of the resident” – interpretation is left to the dementia-care provider..

As consumers of dementia care services, it behooves you to ask questions of potential providers: If you’re moving your loved one into a memory-care assisted living, what are their standards? Can they explain those standards to you and also explain how they operationalize them – how many hours of training does their staff receive? What is the ratio of direct care staff to the residents? How do they handle emotional outbursts (behavioral expressions) by residents? Do they have a medical director or other health care providers who visit the residents on-site? What is their system for handling a resident who becomes ill?

It’s not enough to pour all our national resources into finding a cure for dementia. The national crisis is in the immediate need for developing better models of care. As customers of dementia care, you can help improve standards of care by asking questions of assisted living providers and showing them that you expect trained personnel, adequate

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There is No One Better Than YOU to Speak Up

by Michael Ellenbogen, Dementia AdvocateMichael Ellenbogen

I am going to start with the end in mind. You can do all this no matter what your challenges are. In 2008 I was given a diagnosis of Alzheimer’s disease after struggling for 10 years. As a workaholic I found it difficult when I could no longer work, or have purpose in life; something that is so important so we do not spiral into decline.

Early-on I reached out to the Alzheimer’s Association hoping I could volunteer my time in a meaningful way. However, it transpired that no one was willing to trust me to do any job I really wanted; they were only prepared to let me do simple jobs that I disliked. Eventually they placed me on a committee where I have had lots of input and a huge impact on others’ lives.

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Around the same time the Alzheimer’s Association reached out to me to work in a new group called ESAG (Early Stage Advisory Group). It was a good start to my advocacy, but I soon realized so much more needed to be done, that there was a lot not being accomplished. In the mean time I started to do my own advocacy work.

Before my term with AA came to an end I applied for a position with the National ESAG based in Chicago, but I was not accepted. Part of the issue, I feel, was that I was too vocal. However, I continued my advocacy by being invited on radio and television shows, and had many articles published in papers and online.

Even though I was not on the ESAG team I made sure my voice was heard at the National Alzheimer’s Association by making friends with some very high-level people. My strategy was to connect with as many people as possible who were in a position to bring about change. I did not want to deal with the people who were not able to make the big decisions. It’s not that I did not believe in those people but I have a limited amount of time left and I need to make it as productive as possible.

I started speaking regularly at NAPA and making connections with the committee members. By this time I had reapplied for the Alzheimer’s Association National Early Stage Advisor, and this time I was accepted.

I started to reach out to others with dementia and began mentoring them, teaching them what to do, and before long they started to have a voice, and realized they did not have to depend on their care partners. I was lighting fires under them and putting ideas in their heads and they made them successful, and then started teaching others and it is continuing. Many of these people are now doing great things, you would be amazed.

Let me give you two examples. Most recently an organization called Dementia Alliance International was formed. This is a group of people who all have dementia and are looking to become the voice for people like you and me. Another group has been set up by a friend of mine. This is a group of dementia mentors from all around the world who offer online mentoring to the newly diagnosed, which is ideal because it can take a long time for us to understand things, and at times we can feel lost. The site’s popularity is growing quickly.

Both of these groups do not allow the care partners to be involved because they always end up taking control of things and we want the voice of those with the disease.

I have also worked hard and pushed for a plan in my state. After it was approved by the governor I used every angle to get on the committee as they were going to need help to make changes, and create the procedures and policies that would impact others with dementia including their families. I was appointed by the governor, which was really good, but I was afraid that I may let others down on this important mission. I made use of the connections I had so I was able to be as productive as possible.

At first I found it challenging dealing with some people on this committee because they are so smart and I can only process things very slowly, so by the time I had understood what was said they had moved on to the next topic. I quickly realized I had to find a new way of communicating. So I started emailing them after the meetings to share my thoughts and even though my writing skills are poor everyone adapted and made allowances for me and I soon became a key contributor. d.

It is also important to remember that if you are in a role such as this you must remove yourself if you cannot do justice for those you are trying to serve. I know I may be making this sound easy but it really was not. When I started doing my advocacy work I was so overwhelmed. I could barely keep up with what I was doing and became very depressed. People around me kept telling me to stop and slow down, but I ignored them and kept pushing harder and harder. It took me many months to overcome those difficulties, but today I can handle almost anything.

I have now become an ambassador for AA, which means I meet with my local congressman in order to bring about more dementia awareness. I have made many requests of him and he has supported them all. Most recently he has signed on to things like sending a letter to the House Appropriators for an additional 200 million dollars, and The Alzheimer’s Accountability Act H.R. 4351. All these things are to help boost the money needed for research and more dementia awareness, which is badly needed and you can help with that also.

Sometimes you need to think outside the box. On two occasions I was able to get my congressman to read a short speech to Congress, and he even helped me to add the first ever letter to the Congressional Record requesting funding. This was shared with every Senator, Congressman, as well as government employees. This has become a part of history.

All it takes is the will to bring about change. There is no one better that can speak up for this cause then you because you are the experts in what you are dealing with. Your voice matters so much more then you may think. Today I am on many different advisory boards and regularly communicate with leaders of the G7 World Dementia Council. I have a direct connection to the chair’s private secretary. I have even written a book about my experience living with AD, pushing through obstacles until it was published as an e-book, and then printed.

Don’t ever let people tell you cannot do something. Find a way around those people. Your will and passion is so much stronger and you can make these contributions if you decide to. It is all up to you. We can do anything at our own speed.

Working as an advocate was the best thing I could have done. My mind has improved in so many ways and I continue to beat most odds. I know others who have benefited in the same way because of their advocacy work. I know I will not beat this disease, but I am not going down without a fight. So if there is one thing to take away from all this it is to find a new purpose in life, because this is a new road with many twists and turns. Don’t give up. Live your life to the fullest.


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Music Benefits Your Brain

Brains Benefit from MusicWhen you listen to music, multiple areas of your brain become engaged and active. But when you actually play an instrument, that activity becomes more like a full-body brain workout. What’s going on? Anita Collins explains the fireworks that go off in musicians’ brains when they play, and examines some of the long-term positive effects of this mental workout.  Click the graphic to see an explanatory video.

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By Richard Powers: Richard has been teaching historic and contemporary social Senior_dancesdance for 40 years. He leads workshops around the world and is currently a full-time instructor at Stanford University’s Dance Division.

For centuries, dance manuals and other writings have lauded the health benefits of dancing, usually as physical exercise. More recently we’ve seen research on further health benefits of dancing, such as stress reduction and increased serotonin level, with its sense of well-being. More recently we’ve heard of another benefit: Frequent dancing apparently makes us smarter.

A major study added to the growing evidence that stimulating one’s mind by dancing can ward off Alzheimer’s disease and other dementia, much as physical exercise can keep the body fit. Dancing also increases cognitive acuity at all ages.

You may have heard about the New England Journal of Medicine report on the effects of recreational activities on mental acuity in aging. Here it is in a nutshell:

The 21-year study of senior citizens, 75 and older, was led by the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City, funded by the National Institute on Aging, and published in the New England Journal of Medicine. Their method for objectively measuring mental acuity in aging was to monitor rates of dementia, including Alzheimer’s disease.

The study wanted to see if any physical or cognitive recreational activities influenced mental acuity and discovered that some activities had a significant beneficial effect while others had none.
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Cognitive activities such as reading books, writing for pleasure, doing crossword puzzles, playing cards and playing musical instruments were studied; as were physical activities like playing tennis or golf, swimming, bicycling, dancing, walking for exercise and doing housework.

One of the surprises of the study was that almost none of the physical activities appeared to offer any protection against dementia. There can be cardiovascular benefits of course, but the focus of this study was the mind. There was one important exception: the only physical activity to offer protection against dementia was frequent dancing:

Reading – 35% reduced risk of dementia
Bicycling and swimming – 0%
Doing crossword puzzles at least four days a week – 47%
Playing golf – 0%
Dancing frequently – 76%, the greatest risk reduction of any activity studied, cognitive or physical.

What could cause these significant cognitive benefits? Neurologist Dr. Robert Katzman proposed these persons are more resistant to the effects of dementia as a result of having greater cognitive reserve and increased complexity of neuronal synapses. Like education, participation in mentally engaging activities lowers the risk of dementia by improving these neural qualities.

As Harvard Medical School psychiatrist Dr. Joseph Coyle explains in an accompanying commentary: “The cerebral cortex and hippocampus, which are critical to these activities, are remarkably plastic, and they rewire themselves based upon their use.”

Our brain constantly rewires its neural pathways, as needed. If it doesn’t need to, then it won’t.

When brain cells die and synapses weaken with aging, our nouns go first, like names of people, because there’s only one neural pathway connecting to that stored information. If the single neural connection to that name fades, we lose access to it. As people age, some of them learn to parallel process, to come up with synonyms to go around these roadblocks.

The key here is Dr. Katzman’s emphasis on the complexity of our neuronal synapses. More is better. Do whatever you can to create new neural paths. The opposite of this is taking the same old well-worn path over and over again, with habitual patterns of thinking and living. . . We need to keep as many of those paths active as we can, while also generating new paths, to maintain the complexity of our neuronal connections. In other words: Intelligence — use it or lose it.

We immediately ask two questions: 1) Why is dancing better than other activities for improving mental capabilities? 2) Does this mean all kinds of dancing, or is one kind of dancing better than another?

. . .The essence of intelligence is making decisions. The best advice, when it comes to improving your mental acuity, is to involve yourself in activities that require split-second rapid-fire decision-making, as opposed to rote memory (retracing the same well-worn paths), or just working on your physical style.

One way to do that is to learn something new. Not just dancing, but anything new. Don’t worry about the probability that you’ll never use it in the future. Take a class to challenge your mind. It will stimulate the connectivity of your brain by generating the need for new pathways. Difficult classes are better for you, as they will create a greater need for new neural pathways.

Then take a dance class, which can be even more effective. Dancing integrates several brain functions at once — kinesthetic, rational, musical, and emotional — further increasing your neural connectivity.

In social dancing, the Follow role automatically gains a benefit, by making hundreds of split-second decisions as to what to do next, sometimes unconsciously so. As I mentioned on this page, women don’t “follow”, they interpret the signals their partners are giving them, and this requires intelligence and decision-making, which is active, not passive.

This benefit is greatly enhanced by dancing with different partners, not always with the same fellow. With different dance partners, you have to adjust much more and be aware of more variables. This is great for staying smarter longer.

The study made another important suggestion: do it often. Seniors who did crossword puzzles four days a week had a measurably lower risk of dementia than those who did the puzzles once a week. If you can’t take classes or go out dancing four times a week, then dance as much as you can. More is better. And do it now, the sooner the better. It’s essential to start building your cognitive reserve now. Some day you’ll need as many of those stepping-stones across the creek as possible. Don’t wait — start building them now.

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Robin Williams & Lewy Body Dementia

By Lewy Body Dementia Association:Robin Williams

ATLANTA (November 10, 2014) — The recent release of the autopsy and coroner reports on Robin Williams has raised questions about his state of health at the time of his tragic suicide earlier this year.  Some news reports indicate that Mr. Williams had dementia at the time of his death.

The Lewy Body Dementia Association (LBDA) provides information about what can – and cannot – be concluded from these reports.  The autopsy indicated the presence of ‘diffuse Lewy body dementia’ in the brain of Mr. Williams. This is more commonly called ‘diffuse Lewy body disease’ which reflects the biological disease process in the brain.

“The use of the term dementia in the neuropathology report should not be inferred to mean that dementia was observed during life,” warns Dennis Dickson, M.D., Mayo Clinic in Jacksonville, Fla. and member of the LBDA Scientific Advisory Council.

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Lewy bodies are mis-folded protein deposits found in the brains of individuals with several different disorders including Parkinson’s disease (PD) and dementia with Lewy bodies (DLB).

According to his wife, Robin Williams was battling “the early stages of Parkinson’s disease” before his death. In early PD, Lewy bodies are generally limited in distribution, but in DLB, the Lewy bodies are spread widely throughout the brain, as was the case with Robin Williams.

Dr. Dickson, who has reviewed the autopsy and coroner’s report, further states, “Mr. Williams was given a clinical diagnosis of PD and treated for motor symptoms. The report confirms he experienced depression, anxiety and paranoia, which may occur in either Parkinson’s disease or dementia with Lewy bodies.”

Both Parkinson’s disease with dementia and DLB are considered Lewy body dementias because of the presence of Lewy bodies in the brain. Collectively, Lewy body dementias are the second most common form of dementia and affect an estimated 1.4 million Americans.

To receive a diagnosis of dementia with Lewy bodies, a person must have significant problems with thinking and memory that interfere with everyday life. There is no mention in the media or in the autopsy report that Robin Williams exhibited these symptoms.  It is not uncommon, however, for early signs of dementia to go undetected. The Mini Mental Status Exam – a common screening test for cognitive impairment and dementia used by many physicians – is not able to detect cognitive impairment in early DLB.

“Further research is needed to better understand why some individuals with diffuse Lewy body disease do not show symptoms of dementia,” according to Dr. Dickson. “In particular, we need to learn how dementia with Lewy bodies differs clinically from Parkinson’s disease when they both share the same underlying disease process.”

DLB and PD share many symptoms, but have different patterns of onset, progression and symptom severity. The most prominent and problematic clinical symptoms in early PD are related to movement, while in DLB they are more likely to be cognitive and psychiatric. However, over the course of both disorders, the symptoms become more and more alike.

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The Burden of Stigma

by Ken Clasper, individual living with Lewy Body Dementia
Stigma is a terrible thing, but it’s not something which is new,it has been around for many years.

We have seen stigma in many illnesses,like cancer in the 1950-60s. It has also been attached to Aids, and recently Ebola, yet much of it is caused by old stories and myths, which do not seem to go away; possibly because many people simply believe they are true.

I have been asked on many occasions whether dementia us contagious, something which has left me staggered. Some think you can catch it if someone who has dementia sneezes.

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But I believe much of this stems from the fact that it sometimes seems to run in families; but most of it seems to come from the fact that some forms are called disease, like Lewy Body Dementia, which in some cases is called Lewy Body Disease; just one case in many.

Some charities sometimes call themselves “Alzheimer’s Disease” or “Dementia Disease”, and this also helps keep the stigma going. I suppose this is because professionals cannot decide what to call illnesses; or people call things by different terms and names.But I feel that much of this could be stopped if everyone was educated properly about this illness, rather than picking up odd pieces and trying to find the truth their own way

To educate everyone we should be starting with school children, who are already learning about someone in their families who has the illness. Many of these children want to learn more about what is happening to granny or grand dad, and it’s now time to start helping them understand just what is going on. These are the people who will shape the future in stopping this stigma, and therefore we must help them to help us.

Years ago parents kept their children out of the way, when someone had dementia, but now things have changed for the best, and it would be much better without the stigma. I have also heard stories of people crossing the road, so they did not come into contact with someone who had dementia in their families. This usually happened in very close communities like small villages.

So it’s time to find a way of getting into all schools, to teach all children that stigma, is not a nice thing, no matter which illness it’s attached to. Teachers should allow people with illnesses into schools to help educate those who are our future support.

The Government says that they are dementia friendly, so it’s time they factored this into education. It does not need to be an examination study, just allow us in during free time to speak to children and explain our problems and the stigma which is attached to it.

Let us hope that sometime soon things will change and change for the best. Let us all work to remove all stigma once and for all

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Her Name Is Rose

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The first day of school our professor introduced himself and challenged us to get to know someone we didn’t already know. I stood up to look around when a gentle hand touched my shoulder. I turned around to find a wrinkled, little old lady beaming up at me with a smile that lit up her entire being.

She said, ‘Hi handsome. My name is Rose. I’m eighty-seven years old. Can I give you a hug?’

I laughed and enthusiastically responded, ‘Of course you may!’ and she gave me a giant squeeze.

‘Why are you in college at such a young, innocent age?’ I asked.

She jokingly replied, ‘I’m here to meet a rich husband, get married, and have a couple of kids…’

‘No seriously,’ I asked. I was curious what may have motivated her to be taking on this challenge at her age.

‘I always dreamed of having a college education and now I’m getting one!’ she told me.

After class we walked to the student union building and shared a chocolate milkshake. We became instant friends. Every day for the next three months we would leave class together and talk nonstop. I was always mesmerized listening to this ‘time machine’ as she shared her wisdom and experience with me…

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Over the course of the year, Rose became a campus icon and she easily made friends wherever she went. She loved to dress up and she reveled in the attention bestowed upon her from the other students. She was living it up.

At the end of the semester we invited Rose to speak at our football banquet. I’ll never forget what she taught us. She was introduced and stepped up to the podium. As she began to deliver her prepared speech, she dropped her three by five cards on the floor. 
Frustrated and a little embarrassed she leaned into the microphone and simply said, ‘I’m sorry I’m so jittery. I gave up beer for Lent and this whiskey is killing me! I’ll never get my speech back in order so let me just tell you what I know.’

As we laughed she cleared her throat and began, ‘ we do not stop playing because we are old; we grow old because we stop playing. There are only four secrets to staying young, being happy, and achieving success. You have to laugh and find humor every day. You’ve got to have a dream. When you lose your dreams, you die. We have so many people walking around who are dead and don’t even know it! There is a huge difference between growing older and growing up.

If you are nineteen years old and lie in bed for one full year and don’t do one productive thing, you will turn twenty years old. If I am eighty-seven years old and stay in bed for a year and never do anything I will turn eighty-eight. Anybody! Can grow older. That doesn’t take any talent or ability. The idea is to grow up by always finding opportunity in change. Have no regrets. The elderly usually don’t have regrets for what we did, but rather for things we did not do. The only people who fear death are those with regrets.’

She concluded her speech by courageously singing ‘The Rose..’ She challenged each of us to study the lyrics and live them out in our daily lives. At the year’s end Rose finished the college degree she had begun all those years ago.

One week after graduation Rose died peacefully in her sleep. Over two thousand college students attended her funeral in tribute to the wonderful woman who taught by example that it’s never too late to be all you can possibly be.

REMEMBER, GROWING OLDER IS MANDATORY. GROWING UP IS OPTIONAL. We make a Living by what we get. We make a Life by what we give.

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